“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” Winston Churchill.
I am constantly training myself to see the positive in every aspect of my life. That’s seems easy, but it isn’t.
All of us have a life full of problems, however, I know that choosing to be positive has helped me the most in overcoming the worse thing that can happen in the life of everybody: loose my mother!!
It was a very difficult moment, unfortunately everybody pass by that, who before, who later, but happen to everybody.
Talking about timing I had been less lucky than others, but thinking positively I had been lucky being with her for 19 years.
Even in that case, I try to be positive and accept what happened in my life.
Sometimes I find myself being positive, others days I see everything black, but after few black hours, I train my mind to be positive, and the black doesn’t seems so black anymore…
Now 5 steps to train yourself to be more positive:
1) A POSITIVE ATTITUDE IS A CHOICE:
This step is hard to take at first. I used to blame my negativity, but never really stopped and start thinking that I could choose to be positive.
Teaching myself that positivity is a choice is one of the greatest things, I can do to myself!
Now when I find myself in a bad situation, I know that it’s up to me to find the good, to be positive regardless of what’s happening around me.
I realize that everything happens how it happens, and it’s up to me to choose how I want to feel about it.
You control your attitudes, nobody can take that away from you!!
2) RID YOUR LIFE OF NEGATIVITY:
If you want to live a positive, joyful life, you cannot be surrounded by negative people who don’t encourage your happiness.
As a negative person, I attracted negative people. When I decided to make the change to live a more positive life, I had to rid my life of the most negative influences in it. No one is perfect, but there were people in my life who were consistently negative, who constantly brought me down, and I had to stop spending so much time with them.
In addition to removing negative influences from my life, I also had to get rid of some of my own negative behaviors, I had to take a step back and examine which behaviors were good for me and which were not.
I am learning to focus on the positive things I do and let go of the negative ones.
This process is not easy, to be honest.
And I know that It’s hard to live a positive life when negative people and behaviors continually pull you down.
3) LOOK FOR THE POSITIVE IN LIFE:
In every person, in every situation, there is something good. Most of the time it’s not obvious. We have to look. And sometimes we have to look hard.
The old me, If I saw negative, I went with that feeling. I didn’t want to look harder or think too much about the good. I found it much, much easier to sit back and just accept what I saw (which was usually the bad).
Now, when I’m faced with a difficult or challenging situation, I think to myself, “What is good about this?” No matter how terrible the situation might seem, I always can find something good if I take the time to think about it.
Everything—good and bad—is a learning experience so, at the very least, you can learn from bad experiences.
If you really take the time to look, you will usually find something good, something genuinely positive, about every person or situation.
4) REINFORCE POSITIVITY IN YOURSELF:
Once I started thinking more positively, I realized I had to reinforce these thoughts and behaviors in myself so they would stick. As with any sort of training, the more you practice, the better you get—and, yes, you can practice being positive.
The best and easiest way to do this is to be positive when it comes to who you are. Tell yourself you’re awesome. Tell yourself you look good. Tell yourself you did a great job at work or raising your kids or whatever it is you do.
Be honest with yourself, but do your best to look for the good. And, whatever you do, don’t focus on the negative. We all have positive attributes, and it’s up to you to remind yourself of them every day.
5) SHARE POSITIVITY WITH OTHERS:
Not only do you need to be positive with yourself for this training to really take effect, but you need to be positive with others. You have to share your wealth of positivity with the world.
The best way I’ve found to do this is quite simple and basic: Be nice to other people, no matter what. Tell someone s/he looks nice today. Tell someone s/he did a great job on that presentation.
Tell your parents or children (or both!) how much you love them and how great they are. When someone is feeling down, do what you can to cheer him or her up. Send flowers. Write notes. Don’t gossip. Be kind to all living things.
All of these things sound basic enough, but for someone like me, they didn’t come easily.
I never wanted to see the good in myself and, therefore, didn’t want to see it in others either. I used to be critical and condescending. Now I strive to be encouraging and supportive.
I try not only to treat others as I would like to be treated, but I also try to consider how they would like to be treated. People appreciate positivity, and the more you share it with others, the more you are practicing it your own life.
When you start feeling like the idea of being a positive person is daunting, remind yourself that all it takes is one small step in the right direction to move yourself toward a more positive attitude.
Believe in yourself and remember the most important lesson of all:
A positive outlook is a choice that you can always make.
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